October 2014

“When life gives you lemons, don’t make lemonade! Make life take the lemons back! Get mad! I don’t want your damn lemons!”

Portal 2

U of M

On a recommendation we go to the U of M to start the IVF process. We always think of them at the top of new technology. Both CKnight and Derrian like this idea a lot. But man… you would expect a Doctor in such a sensitive field to be kind, smiling, and wholly understanding. That was NOT the case with the first Doctor we saw.

Quite the opposite in fact. Wrinkly, grey thinning hair, wiry thin. The slight lisp and constant nervous movements didn’t help in the slightest.

Derrian is the most patient person in the world and she even wanted to leave after a short time talking to this older gentleman. No eye contact, arguing over and over facts presented to him…. grrrr…. it’s just birth control! No we did not finish the whole pack! We have said this 4 times already…

We still don’t like to think back to it. Not all Doctors are created equal and while this one might be an amazing one, he was just one that we would not see again after that first meeting.

U of M

Man… a healer is always portrayed as a cute, docile, and soft spoken person who gains an incredible back-bone when their friends are threatened. That was not the case with the first ‘special’ healer we went to go see about this bump in the road.

Nothing like Nurse Joy or Guru-Joy, quite the opposite in fact. I would classify this Healer for on the side of a dark mage in appearance. Wrinkly, grey thinning hair, wiry thin. The slight lisp and constant nervous movements didn’t help in the slightest.

Derrian is the most patient person in the world and she even wanted to leave after a short time talking to this old healer. No eye contact, arguing over over facts presented to him…. grrrr….

We still don’t like to think back to it. Not all healers are created equal and while this one might be an amazing one, he was just one that we would not see again after that first meeting.

CRM seminar

We know the issues and have been given our chances of success in this adventure. Options weighed we have come up with a plan of attack. It will not be easy, it will not be cheap, but we are firm in our goals.

So we attended a gathering of like minded individuals to discuss. I wish it was as simple as gathering in a merry little circle to talk about a pretty little ring-of-doom but there was much more to it. We are all different, we come from different life styles and background. All different shapes, colors, and sizes. A gathering like that lets us know that we are not alone, which is a bit comforting and a bit scary at the same time.

There is lots of information passed, stories told, and some creepy videos that made us cringe a little. The the knowledge gain by going to the gathering is of high value.

Knowledge is power after all.

(Not to mention the mountain of paperwork we left with to read later)

CRM seminar

We know the issues and have been given our chances of success to naturally have a child, the odds are not good. Single digits. Derrian is broken 3 different ways, and CKnight 2. 🙁 We are given a couple of options. IUI, basically white washing the sperm and putting only the best back in. The cost is about $4000 a time for that. And our best chance is up to 6 months after the surgery. We are still in single digits for a percentage of success with this.

Or we can try IVF, take both the egg and sperm out and put them together, then put them back in. Cost here runs about $12000-$15000 per try with a 50% chance of success.

IVF costs more, but the higher chances means that our money is better spent here. That is what we decided to try.

We find and attend an IVF seminar at the CRM clinic here in Minnesota. It is a full house when we arrive. Everyone is different, we come from different life styles and background. All different shapes, colors, and sizes. A gathering like that lets us know that we are not alone, which is a bit comforting and a bit scary at the same time.

There is lots of information passed, stories told, and some creepy videos that made us cringe a little. The the knowledge gain by going to the gathering is of high value.

Knowledge is power after all.

(Not to mention the mountain of paperwork we left with to read later)

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